Sections
Closure is mistakenly viewed as this thing that has to be given to us by the other person. This is so disempowering because it means you are literally at the mercy of someone else’s actions.
Closure is NOT a thing. No one can actually give it to you. You don’t need closure to move on. Closure is what happens as a result of moving on. One day after the other, one step in front of the other. With every step forward, and with every brave decision you make to put the focus back on to you, you are rewriting this chapter of your life. Over time, closure will come and you will see that this was something that happen for you, not to you.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness IS freedom. Forgiveness is understanding that the hell you’ve been through and the people who have played a role in that hell were ALSO responsible for putting you on a new track, the right track.
When you can “See” the role this person has played in the ‘Story Of You’, then you will notice that forgiveness found you, not the other way around.
And you may not be there yet, and that’s to be expected. You cannot force it. But as you move forward listening to your inner voice and the voices of others who inspire and support you, you will heal, and with healing comes forgiveness. In fact, part of you may even forget.
Follow the below steps to continue your healing journey towards closure:
Decide where to focus now:
What do you need to focus on right now to reinforce that you can take care of yourself and move onward? Is it more self care? Is it pursuing your work? Taking more risks? Is seeking emotional health help?
Stay open, and forgive yourself every day:
Grace is all around you, waiting to be seen and felt by you.
Be open to other emotions. Use your body as the ultimate resource to feeling other things.
Don’t limit yourself to just one way of thinking or believing.
When you take steps back, forgive yourself daily, and BEWARE of your rules and expectations - your “shoulds” for yourself.
Master your heart in order to master you mind:
When you are inspired, you are more beautiful than you could ever even imagine. Stay close to that which brings you closer to your heart. When that becomes your priority, you will see that the mind quiets. Do whatever it is you need to do for that.
For me, its meditation, exercise/yoga, and nature, and working on my contribution. And daily forgiveness.
Stay religious with your rituals.
Keep up with morning rituals!
Let people love you:
Go out and be with friends. Let your family support you. Let people love you. Let them in, and dare to have some girl time and have fun.
You are going to be ok. More than ok. If I can do it I know you can as well. Round up your troops and ask for the support you need. We all need help guiding our lives. You are not alone.